mia rae. welcome. at 4:51pm on tuesday, oct 16th, 2012, you were born. papa, your grandpa, wished that you had waited 7 hours longer…then you guys could’ve shared birthdays together. right now, you are sleeping in your crib….daddy is at target…your big sister lana is with popo and papa….leaving mommy in peace. i can hear silence and i love it.
tuesday morning. 8am. i had a feeling. was it gas? what did i eat last night? what time is it? 8:02am. mike should be getting ready for work now, but he’s doing his usual snooze routine. should i get up and wake up lana? oh but i love my bed. stomach starts hurting again. 8:10am. hmm…these are contractions…are these contractions?…i hope they are not contractions..
by around 8:30am, i woke up your dad and told him contractions were coming about every 5 minutes apart. they lasted that way until 9am. we decided to call papa and tell him we were coming to drop off lana. calling papa…hmm…no answer.
“hi dad. just wondering if you’re home cause i wanted to drop off lana now. i think we’re gonna head to the hospital now…so if you could call me when you get this, thanks bye.”
started packing up the last of our hospital bags we had prepared weeks prior. i called the doctor to tell him the status. he wanted me to come in so he could check how far along i was. my dad called us back, we dropped off lana, and we were off to santa monica. dr. e did a quick check and said that i was dialated far enough so that i could go straight to the hospital. i remember the ride down the 12-story elevator. a woman inside asked me when was the baby due. we chuckled and told her we were actually on our way to the hospital right now. we drove a few blocks down santa monica blvd and pulled into the same parking lot we did three years ago with lana’s birth. we grabbed our bags and strolled up to the entrance of saint john’s hospital. i remember your dad glancing over at me as we headed toward the hospital entrance. he grinned and said, “it’s a lot different this time around, huh?”
i knew what he meant. we weren’t panicking, less anxiety, less worried…this was our second time, so we somewhat knew the drill. we went up the elevator to labor and delivery and within a few minutes, i was hooked up to the machines and the nurse was monitoring you on the screen. i remember looking up at the clock and it was about 10:30am. the first thing the nurse told us was that your heartbeat was unusually rapid and that was not a good sign. i was sort of worried. she asked me how much i had to drink that day and i honestly don’t think i had anything. she told me i was probably dehydrated and that babies don’t like that. she poked my arm with a needle and hooked me up to a bag of fluid and eventually your heartbeat did slow down. i don’t think much happened between the hours of 11:00am and 4:00pm. oh wait, i forgot the most important part…the epidural! 🙂 i remember the nurse asking me to rate my pain on a scale of 1 to 10…and i told her a 7. around 1:30pm, she asked if i wanted to get the epidural and i agreed. dr. e came by too to check on my progress. he also broke my water at that time and i embarrassingly squirted water onto his work clothes! X( the epidural lady came, all i remember is that her name was mary and she was a short asian lady. she was good…quick and easy. she told me to sit at the edge of the bed with my legs dangling off the side and to hunch my shoulders. so i squeezed a pillow, hunched over, and she was done! it did feel a bit uncomfortable and prickly when she was giving me the local anesthesia, but i’m sure that pain is nothing compared to giving birth without it. once the epidural came, it was smooth sailing. they actually had to delay your birth a bit because of the penicillin…it had to be in my system for a certain amount of time, so they let you cook for just a bit longer…until 4:50pm to be exact. so around 4:45pm, dr. e and a couple other nurses came in and i knew it was showtime. he propped up my legs in the stirrups and the huge fluorescent overhead light turned on, aiming right at my you-know-what. this is when i had to keep telling myself, yes…there are about 3 strangers in this room, standing 5 feet away from me, all of whom are standing there looking at my exposed private part…but that is okay, they do this multiple times a day, this is their job. so with mike on one side, the nurse on the other, and dr. e up the middle, we began the process of bringing you into this world. dr. e took the lead in watching the monitor and telling me when to push. he said to take a deep deep breath, then push as hard as i could. it is a very awkward thing to do with all these faces looking back at you, but you gotta do what you gotta do. after the first push, i remember this comical moment where everyone just started chit-chatting back and forth, just passing time….my legs still spread out and everything! i remember thinking to myself, “hello! i am trying to have a baby here and you guys are just chit chatting about your day??!” but it only served to remind me that these people do this for a living so there is no need to be self-conscious. after a total of 4 pushes, you plopped out, at 4:51pm. daddy says that dr. e gracefully scooped you up, suctioned out your nose and mouth, wrapped you up and quickly handed you off to the nurse like a pro. next the placenta came out and i heard the nurse say, “she didn’t even push?! don’t tell the other ladies.” so i guess i got lucky. daddy cut your cord and they placed you on my chest. then that moment happens. it’s the moment that no explanation can do justice. the same moment i experienced the first time with lana, but now with you. it’s the moment they place you onto my chest, our eyes meet, and i am filled with awe, wonder, and it hits me that you are mine. i have never felt this feeling ever before, but it makes all the months of nausea and vomitting somehow worth it.
mia, you were, and still are, a breeze. you slept well the first night at the hospital. of course you woke every few hours because you were hungry, but aside from that, you barely made a peep. papa, gra, uncle jer, auntie jeannie, megan, papa, popo, and auntie jenni all came to visit you and bring us food. they brought mommy’s favorite, steak with rice and barbecued corn on the cob. auntie jenni made cupcakes. we stayed over two nights and were able to leave the following morning. but the night before we left, they said you looked a bit yellow, so that you might be jaundice. when the nurse told me this, my heart sank. it brought back the bad memories and experiences we had with lana and dealing with her jaundice. i didn’t want to see you being poked multiple times a day and having your blood drawn. i didn’t want to see your naked body under the lamp, with only a diaper, protective eye wear, and your tiny feet all wrapped up in bandages from all the needle poking. i hated that they told us to keep lana under the lights as much as possible, so even when she was crying, i had to restrain myself from holding her so she could get more light exposure. i started crying because in my heart, i was anticipating the worse, and i was trying to mentally tell myself it would be okay. mike reassured me, but i was still not at peace. all i could do was offer up a quick prayer that God was in control of all things and that you are His. i was relieved when the nurse told us the following day that your jaundice levels looked moderate so she didn’t think we’d have to do the light exposure. we scheduled you for your first dr. appointment and they told us there that we needed to get bloodwork done since you still looked a bit yellow. my heart quickly became anxious again, but there was nothing i could do about it. i kept telling myself, of course mia is not going to die…jaundice is a common thing and not a big deal. lana came with us to the lab and the nurse let her help turn your viles up and down so the blood would not clump. we left the lab and i remember saying another quick prayer. the doctor said she’d call us around noon with the results.
i remember that lunch. we kept a close eye on the clock, anticipating the doctor’s call. 12:30pm. no call. your dad asked how long we should wait before calling the doctor ourselves. he called around 1pm and left a message to inquire about your blood test results. a few minutes later, the doctor called back and your dad picked up. from the look on his face, i knew it was good news and relief filled my heart. from that day on, we would not have to bring you back to the hospital anymore, you were ours to keep. 🙂
well mia…today is january 7, 2013 and you’re almost 3 months old. i actually started writing this entry about a week or two after you were born back in october but somehow things got busy and i only completed the first two paragraphs! it’s not really your fault, it’s lana’s. 🙂 just kidding…but i must say, having the two of you girls around keeps me on my toes. i just put you down for your nap…and it only took me 2 hours to get you to fall asleep. you are usually a good sleeper, but you aren’t going down as easy today for some reason. lana is at school and the only sounds i hear are the click click click of my keyboard. silence truly is golden.
i’m trying to recap what life has been like since you’ve been here with us. it’s a bit harder for you, living in the shadow of your sister. i don’t know why, but everyone just LOVES her and thinks she is the cutest thing. i just think she is okay. 🙂 i hope you grow up to love each other and play together nicely. i’m sure jealousy and competition will rise eventually between the two of you, but i’m hoping that your dad and i can be as fair as possible and that you will both be raised in the security of Christ’s love for each of you…not in your mom’s, dad’s, or any other stupid boy that comes your way. by the way, mia, you have a TON of hair. i’m not sure what to do with it other than let it grow wild. as far as i can tell, personality wise, you seem to be calmer, more mellow, than lana. you must take after me and lana after your father. she is a wild child and i really don’t comprehend how 1232351092834091235324 words can come out of her mouth during one dinner. you just experienced your first christmas! and i’m sorry that your father and i didn’t buy you anything this year. we will make it up to you once you are more conscious. you also had your first halloween just a few weeks after you were born! lana’s school had a halloween parade and you dressed up as a little black cat. well..you basically had on a blackcat beanie from target, plus drawn on smudged whiskers with my cheapo eyeliner. that was the best i could do this time around. you haven’t gotten sick yet and your 2-month immunizations went well and you didn’t even cry after shot #1. can’t say the same about shot #2 and #3, but you recovered quite nicely. 🙂 you are an amazing sleeper (definitely a trait from mommy), sleeping straight for about 5-6 hours on some nights! i appreciate you letting mommy get her sleep, really i do, you have no idea. this past week you have started to smile and coo! you also really hate sitting in your poop (but who wouldn’t?) and aren’t afraid to let us know that it makes you MAD. a typical dinner includes your big sister, chatting away, whether or not anyone is paying her any attention….your daddy holding you in one arm and eating with the other…and your mommy scarfing her food down cause for some reason, she is the fastest eater in the family. you are pretty good with baths and i think you like the water. today is my last week of maternity leave and i’m actually kind of sad. but i know that you will be in good hands with gra and papa. mia rae lee, it’s been a pleasure getting to know you…